In an article published in TODAY online, Dr. Gail Saltz, a New York City psychiatrist and regular TODAY contributor wroteabout the strength in similarities when it comes to love and succeeding with the odds: “Relationships take a lot of work and compromise to make them last. The more similar you are to one another, the easier it is because you don’t have to do as much compromising when you already agree. When you come from a similar place of upbringing, you tend to have similar feelings about raising your own family.
A 2003 study from the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences found, in fact, that people really want to be romantically connected to someone they view as being very similar to themselves. They prefer someone of a similar level of attractiveness, wealth and status, and commitment to family and monogamy.
Then, a 2009 study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that among newly married couples, there was a strikingly high similarity to each other in the area of attitudes and values, and smaller amount of similarity to one another when it came to elements of personality. Once again, this demonstrated that people were picking mates like themselves. Another important finding of this study was that when researchers examined the level of marital happiness and satisfaction, the happier couples had the most similar personalities, though not necessarily similar attitudes.”
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